You got the interview. You prepared. You showed up on time. And then … it fell apart. A bad interview can feel like a major blow to your confidence and sense of self-worth. You can’t ask for a do-over, so you’re left to replay the experience over and over, beating yourself up for what you know you could have done better.

career coaching Chicago improve interview skillsBut remember: We all have off days. No one is immune, including athletes, world leaders and even your interviewer. The good news is that you will recover, and how you recover is actually more important than how you performed in one job interview.

after a bad interview: resist negativity

The first reaction when you fall short in any circumstance might be to blame yourself and spiral into a self-defeating thought pattern, but beating yourself up is the wrong choice.

As soon as possible, do a brain dump, listing each of the mistakes you feel that you made — from small flubs that you recovered from (e.g., getting the timing wrong when explaining your work on a project) to bigger missteps (e.g., going blank when asked what you would bring to the role). Don’t hold back or try to filter your thoughts at this point — just write.

Then, put the list away and give yourself a little time (no more than a day or two) to acknowledge and process your emotions. It’s natural to feel embarrassed, frustrated or angry — either at yourself or your interviewer — but don’t let it paralyze you. No matter the scope of the interview mistakes, you need to let them go and focus instead on what you can learn from them.

honestly assess your PERFORMANCE

The key to moving on from and succeeding after any type of failure lies in the way you respond to it.

After you’ve had a chance to calm down, take out the list that you made. First, focus on damage control. If they were small mistakes and you are a good match for the job, don’t worry too much. If your skills align with the role, chances are a hiring manager will understand that nerves are involved in any job interview and overlook a couple of small errors.

career coach ChicagoIf your mistakes were more significant and you have the chance to correct them, do so as soon as possible after the interview. Sending a thank you note or email that provides any missing information or context and reiterates your skills can go a long way toward minimizing the damage.

Second, for each interview blunder on your list, determine if there’s anything you can learn from it to help improve your future performance. For example:

  • Were you prepared? Did you think through how your experience would be right for this job? Did you research the company? Did you come with thoughtful questions about the role?
  • Were you your best self? Did you actively listen? Were you engaged?
  • Were there specific questions that threw you? If so, draft a response to each in case you encounter them again.

Third, consider if this was the right job and company for you. When you’re looking for a job, it’s easy to convince yourself that a position would be perfect when the reality might be that you are overqualified, underqualified or just not the right match. Also, reflect on any information you learned about the job, field, industry or company during the interview that can help you hone your search. For example, did you realize that you might be happier at a smaller company or might prefer the same job in a different industry?

career coaching job interviewFinally, review your list again, this time as objectively as possible. Try to shift your perspective, thinking about each item as something another person — not you — did in the same interview. Did they really perform as poorly as you feel you did? Is it possible that you’re being too hard on yourself, at least about some of your mistakes? Do you recognize any distorted thinking patterns that you tend to fall into, like catastrophizing, all-or-nothing thinking or labeling?

practice curiosity

Jody Michael, CEO and founder of Jody Michael Associates, recalls a career coaching client who had the calmest demeanor when interviewing. Jody was amazed at how unflappable she was when it came to bad job interviews.

“I view everything as an opportunity,” she replied when Jody asked about her mood after her third bad interview in a row. “Next time, I’ll be better at answering that question. I will always get better with practice, so I actually like going into interviews. I face them with curiosity.”

You might be thinking, “Easy for her to say! She probably had a job and didn’t bomb an interview with no safety net.”

interview training ChicagoNot so. She was unemployed at the time (and, yes, she found a job that was a great fit after a few more months). But her attitude that each failure was a chance to learn helped her maintain a positive mindset. That way, when the right opportunity came along, she was ready. And when you consider how much of your life you will spend at work, taking the time to find the right job — not just a job — will have an immeasurable impact on your job satisfaction and quality of life.

Interviews can be stressful, and when they don’t go well, it’s easy to get discouraged. But by focusing on what you can learn from your mistakes, rather than beating yourself up for them, you’ll be even better positioned for future success.

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